You cant make someone want to do something, without them wanting to do so themselves otherwise it carries resentment.
So Appreciate and encourage.
There is nothing more important to the welfare of people. But its Human Nature to find fault in other people!! Survival of the fittest, right?
There you are; human nature in action, wrongdoers, blaming everybody but themselves. We are all like that. So when you and I are tempted to criticize someone tomorrow. Let's realize that criticisms are like homing pigeons. They always return home. Let's realize that the person we are going to correct and condemn will
probably justify himself or herself, and condemn us in return; or they will say: "I don't see how I could have done any differently from what I have."
Do you know someone you would like to change and regulate and improve? Good! That is fine. I am all in favour of it, But why not begin on yourself? From a purely selfish standpoint, that is a lot more profitable than trying to improve others - yes, and a lot less dangerous. "Don't complain about the snow on your neighbour's roof," said Confucius, "when your own doorstep is unclean."
When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.